Marriage
So if you've been going out with this person for a while... when is a good time to get married?Specifically, would you wait for the right "financial situation"? Of course ! You must understand almost everything was related to "money" when
you plan for marriage ! So what is the "right" financial situation?
My gf seems to want a crazy HK-style wedding, while I just want a get-together for close families and friends as well as a super honey moon trip.
Well, there're people who mortgage for a wedding.
Thing is I'll be in my late 20's when I graduate, if I decided not to go for another academic position. And alot of people in my field get married before finishing school. A phd and a post-doc will take you into the early 30's. Eventhough phd and postdoc's do get paid, the salary is not really good compare to actual professionals.
[[i] Last edited by westsider on 2005-8-26 at 09:25 PM [/i]] I suggest that you better buy a house before you get marry.
At least you got place to settle down.
The first thing to be considered is when you guys are ready.
I mean are you guys ready to live together, share everything and look after each other?
For me, marriage is just a piece of paper.
The problem would be who to marry, not when to marry.
If you have found a "right" girl, it doesn't matter when is the "right" time 唔等有錢先結都唔得啦.......
香港地無錢真係好難結婚!
好彩既話女家唔高要求都無咁慘，如果襯家高要求既，就真係有排等啦!
平平地都係可以結到婚既，但我覺得結婚始終係一件人生最大既事之一，點都唔可以求其既。 I believe that if both of you guys mean to be together, you guys will be together anyway.
Don't have to worry too much when is the "right" time to get marry.
The first thing you should care about is get a well paid job after you complete your study.
Do you agree? [quote]Originally posted by [i]gundamman678[/i] at 2005-8-26 10:48 PM:
唔等有錢先結都唔得啦.......
香港... [/quote]
Agree~ [quote]Originally posted by [i]Rika[/i] at 2005-8-26 10:50 PM:
I believe that if both of you guys ... [/quote]
Well.... we "live" together. I rent my own place, and she rents her own. So we just stay at one place or another together.
As for buying a house... I don't know. It's a tough call because I don't even know which country I'll settle down in. And my goal in life has never been making money, so it's kinda tough change in that way.
But when we get old, some girl just won't "risk it" for a guy who has not shown enough commitment.
So i don't know how it'll turn out.
[[i] Last edited by westsider on 2005-8-26 at 11:11 PM [/i]] just come to get marry in australia mic duk law........ it is totally different to hk, so good..........the girl need to pay for everything when they get marry, how nice........... so you can marry anytime la............. [quote]Originally posted by [i]gundamman678[/i] at 2005-8-26 10:48 PM:
襯家高要求[/quote]
What do they usually expect? [quote]Originally posted by [i]Eddie14[/i] at 2005-8-26 11:11 PM:
just come to get marry in australia... [/quote]
Well, it's the same over here too. My friend married a British girl, and that girl's family paid for everything, including everyone's flight over here.
Problem is.... what would a traditional Chinese family want? [quote]Originally posted by [i]westsider[/i] at 2005-8-26 11:13 PM:
What do they usually expect? [/quote]
我以前個女友既父母好睇呢d門面野，酒就一定要擺架啦，無廿圍都要十圍! 仲有禮餅，禮金.......少一樣都唔得呀! [quote]Originally posted by [i]gundamman678[/i] at 2005-8-27 12:35 AM:
我以前個女友既父母好睇呢d門面野，酒就一定要擺架啦，無廿圍都要十圍! 仲有禮餅，禮金.......少一樣都唔得呀! [/quote]
十圍... ok la, but 廿圍?! That's ~200 guest! so 100 on my side, how the heck do I know that many people?! [quote]Originally posted by [i]westsider[/i] at 2005-8-26 11:08 PM:
Well.... we "live" to... [/quote]
Commitment is the most important thing for you and your girl. You are on the right track.
You gotta plan what you are going to do in the future sooner or later.
But I think you don't really need to plan what you are going to be after 5 or 6 years.
Just achieve what you are doing right now. I mean that is all about your study.
Your plan(marriage) will be achieved somehow. Sometimes it just happen with no plan.
Always take it easy. Marriage cost a lot of money for some people, close to nothing to other. It really depends on you and the other half's expectation.
I don't think you live in HK by the way you speak, so I don't think the rules in HK apply to you. If you are in a post grad program, I would say don't wait too long because as girl get older, they want to be married. I saw many perfectly fine couple broke up because the female want to get married but the guy is not ready yet. A engagement (with a ring) is a good way to go if you know you found the right person but the timing is not right yet.
The truth is, there is no "right" financial situation. You and your better half need to communicate about what's "right" for you 2.
I do not agree with most people that you need a house. Renting is perfectly ok. Sometime a house is right and sometime it does not make sense for some people. House is a fixed asset that you cannot liquildate quickly, so even if you have the money, you may not want to buy one. House is not just a place to live, it's an investment also. So, don't mix things up and get one solution. Marriage is marriage, house is house, no relationship at all. :D
[[i] Last edited by johnwu on 2005-8-27 at 04:50 AM [/i]] [quote]Originally posted by [i]johnwu[/i] at 2005-8-27 04:49 AM:
Marriage cost a lot of money for so... [/quote]
You are quite right~:lol: I JUST PROPOSED TO MY LADY!!! [quote]Originally posted by [i]kelvy[/i] at 2005-8-27 08:58 PM:
I JUST PROPOSED TO MY LADY!!! [/quote]
congratz! [quote]Originally posted by [i]johnwu[/i] at 2005-8-27 04:49 AM:
Marriage cost a lot of money for so... [/quote]
Good point. A good strategy might be to propose at the right time to "drag on" a few years:) 結婚～
我好想ｋａｒ～
一定要等我存到錢先～
話晒都係人生大事～
我自己要求一定要好好睇睇～
我理得襯家有幾要求高（可能我自己要求仲高）
一句講到尾～錢～
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