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作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 01:31 PM 標題: 我好煩呀....請大家幫下忙

我早排識左我表姐(佢係我阿姨個女....大個2年)...我地好夾架....後來佢主動拖我手，我地就開始左啦。但係佢係我表姐，我唔知屋企會唔會反對呀??另外....就係佢住係美國，我住係香港....我好掛住佢呀....而且我又驚佢......我好煩呀....請大家幫下忙

作者: HansChan 時間: 2005-9-11 01:49 PM

哩個世界甘多女.......你係要搞自己表姐........

作者: Gretzky 時間: 2005-9-11 01:53 PM

小朋友，你幾大？

Point #1: 近親柏拖，犧牲大囉！
Point #2: Long D關係，不易維繫！

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 02:02 PM

我今年17呀，咁我都唔想架....有時d野控制唔到架

作者: Gretzky 時間: 2005-9-11 02:06 PM

Trust me...long distance 可能救咗你！不要沉船啊！

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 02:12 PM

即係點呀....遠距離點幫我呀

作者: Gretzky 時間: 2005-9-11 02:30 PM

So you won't fall into something too risky! Falling in love with your cousin is a dangerous thing....I am not old fashioned...but the obstacles you have to overcome are great.

You will probably say you really like her (and I guess she would say the same)...but I wonder if you two are mature enough to start a relationship like that. Even if you two are not related, the long distance and your young age will make this hard to work out.

Cool down....and be ready for the consequences for your (and her) decision...

Good luck young man...

I have to check out...will come back...leave me message if you need more help la....

[ Last edited by Gretzky on 2005-9-11 at 02:31 PM ]

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 02:44 PM

Originally posted by ryan_wkm at 2005-9-11 01:31 PM:
我早排識左我表姐(佢係我阿姨個女.......

If you like her and you're having a good time, don't worry too much about other things. Your family's not gonna like it, but hey, she's not your sister or something.

It is ultimately an economic question, do you value how other people would look at you more, or do you value having a good time more.

Personally I would go for the good time. It's my own life and I'm gonna live it my way.

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 02:47 PM

another thing is that you should make sure she's really treating it as a real relationship.

Some of my (non-Chinese) friends slept with their cousins, but those are only a fu(k-friend relationships.

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 03:09 PM

但係我真係好想同佢一齊呀.....如果同佢分手.....我唔知點呀

作者: blazesbac 時間: 2005-9-11 03:13 PM

hey.....ur case is much better than mine.....at least ur cousin feels the same way as u do......my cousin lives in UK n we also had sum nice time when she came bak durin summer....but she treats me as her best cousin only....or say TREATED.... afta she knew wut i feel...she hasnt even talked to me anymore...no call,email n everythin....its been like 2months till now

so....if u REALLY think u 2 can work out sum shit...go ahead n treausre the time...i perosnally think theres NO WRONG to love ur cousin.....

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 03:19 PM

但係屋企人方面........

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 03:28 PM

Originally posted by ryan_wkm at 2005-9-11 03:19 PM:
但係屋企人方面........

It's your own life, and it doesn't hurt your "屋企人" in any way.

Do what is best for yourself, and you don't have to tell the "close minded" people about it.

[ Last edited by westsider on 2005-9-11 at 03:30 PM ]

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 03:36 PM

咁又係......咁我話唔話俾佢地知呀??

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 04:00 PM

You don't have to tell them, just like you don't tell them how much sex you've had.

you have to pick your time.

Just like any other relationship, you need to fortify the relationship before telling anyone. If not, you're just opening up for whoever that would attack you. In particular, long-D relationship is very fragile, so wait until you 2 settled down at the same place geographically.

The most important thing is that you should only tell them if they're "open minded". Test the water; there is no point telling them if they wouldn't accept it.

作者: ryan_wkm 時間: 2005-9-11 04:19 PM

其實我同表姐拍拖係唔係好過份︿同埋唔應該呀

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 04:40 PM

no.

But whatever you do in this world, there's always a bunch of close-minded people trying to make your life miserable if you don't do things their way.

作者: YUEN_LOUIS 時間: 2005-9-11 05:03 PM

屋企人一定反對~
你阿媽同你阿姨由姊妹變親家,好難接受

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-11 05:16 PM

Originally posted by YUEN_LOUIS at 2005-9-11 05:03 PM:
屋企人一定反對~
你阿媽同你阿姨由姊妹變親家,好難接受

Well I know of a lesbian from a very traditional Chinese family. She's living her own happy life with her partner. Nothing wrong with it.

I also know an European guy from a really racist family. He's living with his Korean girlfriend. Nothing wrong with it.

You don't have to let them know if they're gonna feel bad. Just let everybody do their own thing.

作者: 佐佐 時間: 2005-9-11 08:37 PM

表姐都唔放過...
你有冇諗過將來先
好難真係長久,散左咁見到面都唔知講咩好

作者: Rika 時間: 2005-9-11 11:00 PM

可能你仲細，未有大多選擇出現，你先搵你表姐，諗清楚D好

作者: 雅仔仔 時間: 2005-9-11 11:53 PM

e d叫唔叫亂倫?

作者: westsider 時間: 2005-9-12 04:45 AM

Originally posted by 雅仔仔 at 2005-9-11 11:53 PM:
e d叫唔叫亂倫?

Cousins are not in the immediate family.

We are all under Adam and Eve's family tree. So you might as well say that everyone 亂倫.

[ Last edited by westsider on 2005-9-12 at 04:46 AM ]

作者: 手田水 時間: 2005-9-18 09:55 PM

Originally posted by HansChan at 2005-9-11 01:49 PM:
哩個世界甘多女.......你係要搞自己表姐........

Originally posted by 雅仔仔 at 2005-9-11 11:53 PM:
e d叫唔叫亂倫?

十分同意你啲講法呀..全個香港有噤多女仔.洗唔洗同你表姐呀
亂倫...你真係唔好噤做.一定唔可以噤做

作者: 藍 時間: 2005-9-18 10:54 PM

Originally posted by 手田水 at 2005-9-18 09:55 PM:

十分同意你啲講法呀..全個香港有噤多女仔.洗唔洗同你表姐呀
亂倫...你真係唔好噤做.一定唔可以噤做

表姐吾係直系親屬,吾係亂倫= =

作者: 手田水 時間: 2005-9-19 12:43 PM

Originally posted by 藍 at 2005-9-18 10:54 PM:

表姐吾係直系親屬,吾係亂倫= =

吾係直系?都會呀..都好有可能生個仔出黎係有問題的
天下女仔多的是

作者: ckm9321 時間: 2005-9-19 09:55 PM

唔緊要,你同佢係姨表,唔算近親

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