[愛情診療室] 我都有個感情問題, 請大家幫幫手[trista+]

chun_singho

一直以來都追緊一個女仔...大大話話都追左成年...
在暑期工認識佢個時佢有個男友, 但無耐就分左手
個時佢話心裡一直都無放低個男仔
所以無接受我既追求, 但係又無明確表示我無機會
只係話俾時間佢...
於是我一直係度等, 期間又送禮物又約佢出街
但係次次佢都話忙要幫人補習無同我出去
之後我話佢朋友有約佢出去, 點解同佢地出唔同我出
佢話一早係學校約好左, 無辦法...
我地於是係電話中晚晚傾, 好close下...連將來一齊結婚生仔既野都可以討論一番
一直到一年之後即係而家, 佢同我講番佢同前男朋友既往事
佢好似放低左, 我再問佢有無機會
佢話而家忙緊補習 (佢有六份補習), 所以唔想拍拖住
但係他朝有一日可能會一齊
我唔明白, 真係好唔明白個女仔諗咩?
各位可以話我知嗎? 同埋我應唔應該等落去??

[ Last edited by trista_cheong on 2005-6-3 at 07:21 PM ]

homan~

Originally posted by chun_singho at 2005-6-3 12:58 AM:
一直以來都追緊一個女仔...大大話話都...

我覺得佢只係當你friend

佢唔想hurt 你........


你唔同你出街, 同人出就知唔accept 你啦
(你仲好意思問佢 .....>o<)


你不如諗下佢點解唔accept你仲好啦

Gretzky

放手吧啦, 施主！！ (just joking!)

It seems to me the gal is 'enjoying' her current status with you, and who wouldn't? You've shown your interest by gifts and effort. Your bottom line is clear. Meanwhile she's got options now. She could 'enjoy' the comfort of your love and presence without making the commitments. While there's nothing intrinsically wrong with that attitude, she does have the option to cut you off when the situation get cloudy.

All that '6 tutoring jobs' and 'haven't got over the last guy' reasons may seem logical and jusified, but they are just landmines on the surface. Maybe you want to find out the real reason of her non-commitment behind the surface. That is more important to the overall and long term picture.

Whatever decisions you make...you gonna be ready to pay the price....and don't come back and mourn what you could've done in the future. The choice is yours, and you will take responsibility for the gamble (or calculated risk...but still a risk).

Good luck.

homan~

Originally posted by Gretzky at 2005-6-3 01:30 AM:
放手吧啦, 施主！！ (just joking!)
...

agree!!

佢想同你做friend 多d

Akuma

Originally posted by homan~ at 2005-6-3 03:56:


agree!!

佢想同你做friend 多d

但係我諗呢位人兄似乎係的一做唔到女朋友就連朋友都無得做個隻.........呢個個我既直覺, 如有估錯,請見諒

johnwu

Originally posted by homan~ at 2005-6-3 01:56 AM:


agree!!

佢想同你做friend 多d

I agree...
It's been a year already.  You have expired and have no chance to become a bf in the near future.

sas

好明顯佢就玩太極啦
耍緊你啦
如果佢真係有心的
又點會拖你拖咁耐呀？

jublio

其實追女仔個段時間唔好拖太長…

wallaby

Originally posted by chun_singho at 2005-6-3 00:58:
一直以來都追緊一個女仔...大大話話都...

i am in a very similar situation to urs... so i would like to share some of my experience mate....

based on ur description, the girl is either rejecting in a rather implied manner, or she just isn't  ready yet.... but if she is a bad girl, she may be just playing w/ ur feeling.... so u must figure this out....
neverthelss, u still stand a chance, as she has never shown any sign of strong dislike abt u so far... but this only applies to a nice gril...

but the problem is, how long will she take to be ready for the next guy? she may take forever!!! coz she knows u love her much more than she does to u, so she is always on the upper-hand. to her, u are a nice guy,or i should say, a nice subsitutite who will wait for her forever. but she wants something much more than that.

so my advice to u is, just try to keep ur friendship w/ her in the moment, if the friendship blooms and grows into something else, then it's something u both deserve. but in the same pt of time, u better keep ur mind open, coz u may have found someone better. n she may find hers either. better prepare this to happen...

never attach to some1 too much, as it may lead  into something u wish the least to happen...

chun_singho

謝謝各位的建議, 我會積極考慮我和她的關係的