westsider

Originally posted by Eddie14 at 2005-8-26 11:11 PM:
just come to get marry in australia...

Well, it's the same over here too. My friend married a British girl, and that girl's family paid for everything, including everyone's flight over here.

Problem is.... what would a traditional Chinese family want?

gundamman678

Originally posted by westsider at 2005-8-26 11:13 PM:


What do they usually expect?

我以前個女友既父母好睇呢d門面野，酒就一定要擺架啦，無廿圍都要十圍! 仲有禮餅，禮金.......少一樣都唔得呀!

westsider

Originally posted by gundamman678 at 2005-8-27 12:35 AM:


我以前個女友既父母好睇呢d門面野，酒就一定要擺架啦，無廿圍都要十圍! 仲有禮餅，禮金.......少一樣都唔得呀!

十圍... ok la, but 廿圍?! That's ~200 guest! so 100 on my side, how the heck do I know that many people?!

Rika

Originally posted by westsider at 2005-8-26 11:08 PM:

Well.... we "live" to...

Commitment is the most important thing for you and your girl. You are on the right track.
You gotta plan what you are going to do in the future sooner or later.
But I think you don't really need to plan what you are going to be after 5 or 6 years.
Just achieve what you are doing right now. I mean that is all about your study.
Your plan(marriage) will be achieved somehow. Sometimes it just happen with no plan.
Always take it easy.

johnwu

Marriage cost a lot of money for some people, close to nothing to other.  It really depends on you and the other half's expectation.

I don't think you live in HK by the way you speak, so I don't think the rules in HK apply to you.  If you are in a post grad program, I would say don't wait too long because as girl get older, they want to be married.  I saw many perfectly fine couple broke up because the female want to get married but the guy is not ready yet.  A engagement  (with a ring) is a good way to go if you know you found the right person but the timing is not right yet.  

The truth is, there is no "right" financial situation.  You and your better half need to communicate about what's "right" for you 2.

I do not agree with most people that you need a house.  Renting is perfectly ok.  Sometime a house is right and sometime it does not make sense for some people.  House is a fixed asset that you cannot liquildate quickly, so even if you have the money, you may not want to buy one. House is not just a place to live, it's an investment also.  So, don't mix things up and get one solution.  Marriage is marriage, house is house, no relationship at all.

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Rika

Originally posted by johnwu at 2005-8-27 04:49 AM:
Marriage cost a lot of money for so...

You are quite right~

kelvy

I JUST PROPOSED TO MY LADY!!!

westsider

Originally posted by kelvy at 2005-8-27 08:58 PM:
I JUST PROPOSED TO MY LADY!!!

congratz!

westsider

Originally posted by johnwu at 2005-8-27 04:49 AM:
Marriage cost a lot of money for so...

Good point. A good strategy might be to propose at the right time to "drag on" a few years

KKBoy

結婚～
我好想ｋａｒ～
一定要等我存到錢先～
話晒都係人生大事～
我自己要求一定要好好睇睇～
我理得襯家有幾要求高（可能我自己要求仲高）
一句講到尾～錢～