ryan_wkm

但係我真係好想同佢一齊呀.....如果同佢分手.....我唔知點呀

blazesbac

hey.....ur case is much better than mine.....at least ur cousin feels the same way as u do......my cousin lives in UK n we also had sum nice time when she came bak durin summer....but she treats me as her best cousin only....or say TREATED.... afta she knew wut i feel...she hasnt even talked to me anymore...no call,email n everythin....its been like 2months till now

so....if u REALLY think u 2 can work out sum shit...go ahead n treausre the time...i perosnally think theres NO WRONG to love ur cousin.....

ryan_wkm

但係屋企人方面........

westsider

Originally posted by ryan_wkm at 2005-9-11 03:19 PM:
但係屋企人方面........

It's your own life, and it doesn't hurt your "屋企人" in any way.

Do what is best for yourself, and you don't have to tell the "close minded" people about it.

[ Last edited by westsider on 2005-9-11 at 03:30 PM ]

ryan_wkm

咁又係......咁我話唔話俾佢地知呀??

westsider

You don't have to tell them, just like you don't tell them how much sex you've had.

you have to pick your time.

Just like any other relationship, you need to fortify the relationship before telling anyone. If not, you're just opening up for whoever that would attack you. In particular, long-D relationship is very fragile, so wait until you 2 settled down at the same place geographically.

The most important thing is that you should only tell them if they're "open minded". Test the water; there is no point telling them if they wouldn't accept it.

ryan_wkm

其實我同表姐拍拖係唔係好過份︿同埋唔應該呀

westsider

no.

But whatever you do in this world, there's always a bunch of close-minded people trying to make your life miserable if you don't do things their way.

YUEN_LOUIS

屋企人一定反對~
你阿媽同你阿姨由姊妹變親家,好難接受

westsider

Originally posted by YUEN_LOUIS at 2005-9-11 05:03 PM:
屋企人一定反對~
你阿媽同你阿姨由姊妹變親家,好難接受

Well I know of a lesbian from a very traditional Chinese family. She's living her own happy life with her partner. Nothing wrong with it.

I also know an European guy from a really racist family. He's living with his Korean girlfriend. Nothing wrong with it.

You don't have to let them know if they're gonna feel bad. Just let everybody do their own thing.