Mum & Dad...How do you tell them?

jojizzle

I'm sure all couples want everyone to be happy for them but,
for all those whose parents are very "gun cheung" ...

How do you tell them you have a bf/gf?
Do you just not tell them?
or wait until you've finished studying until you tell them??

And, what if you tell them and they stop you from being with your partner? >.<"
Is it worth the risK?

What are you ppl's opinions?

Rika

First of all, do you understand Cantonese? If you do, I wanna write in Cantonese

入返正題先，你清唔清楚你 parents 點諗，佢地有無明示暗示話唔鐘意你求學時期拍拖?
如果有，你一係就唔拍拖，一係就隱瞞佢地，再唔係就試探下如果你拍拖，佢地會點
視乎個後果係點先算
如果無，你不妨試探下佢地會唔會反對，如果唔反對，照直講會好D，光明正大D

我屋企人就反對我中學期間拍拖，所以我都收得好埋，直到我入左大學
我就叫個女仔黎我屋企食飯，雖然我無直接同佢地話佢係我女朋友
不過佢地都估到，我亦都無否認，最煩係分左手又要同返屋企講，然後問呢樣o個樣

jojizzle

投先打唔到中文字。。。

我同意啊。。不過我係女仔﹐parents都驚我泄底或者被男仔玩。。。
好難知道拒地既反應 = 。 ="
因為隱瞞好辛苦o架

Rika

我都明白，傳統觀念，女仔係會被男仔呃，但係，你幾多歲? 我覺得 20 歲之後，屋企人唔會太反對你拍拖，過左 21 歲，佢地仲可能驚你無拖拍添呀

jojizzle

我就黎18歲lu~ 我仲有3個禮拜就中學畢業喇﹐。
認唔認該等到畢左業先話被拒地聽咧﹖

Rika

橫直你都忍瞞左咁耐，當然等埋畢業先同佢地講啦，18 歲，對你屋企人黎講，你都仲未應該拍拖住，我諗佢地會覺得，等你過左二十歲，大個D，識諗D，識得搵好男仔，咁先至好識下拍拖，中五畢業後有乜打算? 如果成績好，要升中六，你要保證你拍拖唔會影響到你學業，好難架

jojizzle

我系澳洲讀書﹐畢業後如果有姿格就可以入大學O架喇。。
澳洲讀書比較relax。 我讀書成勣唔查架。
不過阿媽成日話有男朋友會影響成勣﹐睇死我會唔合格。
但系我一直有男有到可以有好成勣。
我諗拒地毋野講啦掛﹗

herothree

18 is a very very sensitive period

even more so becoz it's your last yr of highschool

it's normal for them to worri
especially u're at aust by yourself (are u???)
is the guy in aust or in hk???

the thing is you're not trying to BEAT your parents
by having good grades while u had a bf
grades are all for yourself
i und. one girl oversea and really want to have someone that would listen and takes care of you
(i'm pretty sure that your parents would have guessed anyway)

as the other bro said
wait til all grades are in and acceptance cin tell lor
nth to lose

although
a relationship that is exposed is alot more comfortable and the joy of sharing with your loving family abt having a GOOD bf, is priceless

good luck with that
and wish you well on school work

(o^.^o)

Rika

Originally posted by jojizzle at 2005-10-19 08:30 PM:
我系澳洲讀書﹐畢業後如果有姿格就可...

你響澳洲邊個 city 呀? 我識好多人都係響澳洲讀書
無問題啦，你個男朋友都影響唔到你D成績，唔怕話比你屋企知喎
不過入埋大學先話會好D，因為我係入左大學先同屋企人講

harvey22

good luck in your HSC, which hs you go to?