[愛情診療室] please help...

Kop

please help and give me some advice..thx..

I've known a girl for over a year now..becoming more and more friend since she broke up with her ex-bf(summer 2005)..we talk to each other a lot..even though we dun study in the same school now but we always sms,msn..i never knew how she thought of me..but sometimes we'd call each other some nickname like 'suo pig'..so i guess we're very close..
i started to hav a crush on her 2 months ago..and i finally told her how i felt last week after watching a movie..she didn't say anything at that time and b4 we left she just said 'i'll talk to ya later'..2 days later she sms me and said 'i really treasure this friendship and dun want any changes to destroy it'..but the weird thing is since that night i haven't seen her on msn and she didn't update her diary either..which is strange cos she always does everyday(both msn and diary)..have i thought too much???i reli dunno wt to do
please all big brothers feel free to give any advice..thx^

p.s. sorry i can't type chinese on this computer

機密

Originally posted by Kop at 2006-1-3 11:53:
please help and give me some advice...

看來你要同佢維持原來關係囉。 佢都表達得好明顯啦，好抱歉，對方對你無feel的話，小弟都無乜計。 俾心機讀書好過啦。

Fung2004

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worai

I have had a similar case before, seems like she have no feelings for your right now, the only thing you can do is to make her like you.  It worked for me, but i guess you can try if it also works for you.  I simply do stuffs that made her life easier.  I did something like, woke up at 7am everyday and drove her to school, pick her up everyday, hang out with her for some time, and drove her home. Care for her family and do small un-noticeable stuff which benefit her in the long-run.  She said "said 'i really treasure this friendship and dun want any changes to destroy it'" right? people`s feeling are not carved in stones, they can change, no one is born with a set mind who they love or not.  Just care for her in a not too intrusive way and hopfully she will fall in love with you.

It worked for me, hope it works for you too,
Good luck bro

addition:
oh... one thing i want to add, I`ve invested consecutively almost 3 years of my time to make her love me... don`t expect it is an easy task, if you really love her, 3 years is nothing..

[ Last edited by worai on 2006-1-9 at 04:25 AM ]

kalos

Sorry man, but honestly, i dun think u hv any chance at all... Really sorry to hear this... But i think that u just think too much... i had a similar case b4, i try to pretent that im alright n try to b her best fd... but it just doesnt work coz everything's changed... Sorry man... What i recommanded u to do is foget this n work hard on ur study n wait for ur miss right in da future, be tought man... Good luck!