Marriage

westsider

So if you've been going out with this person for a while... when is a good time to get married?

Specifically, would you wait for the right "financial situation"?

westsider

So what is the "right" financial situation?

My gf seems to want a crazy HK-style wedding, while I just want a get-together for close families and friends as well as a super honey moon trip.

Well, there're people who mortgage for a wedding.

Thing is I'll be in my late 20's when I graduate, if I decided not to go for another academic position. And alot of people in my field get married before finishing school. A phd and a post-doc will take you into the early 30's. Eventhough phd and postdoc's do get paid, the salary is not really good compare to actual professionals.

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westsider

Originally posted by Rika at 2005-8-26 10:50 PM:
I believe that if both of you guys ...

Well.... we "live" together. I rent my own place, and she rents her own. So we just stay at one place or another together.

As for buying a house... I don't know. It's a tough call because I don't even know which country I'll settle down in. And my goal in life has never been making money, so it's kinda tough change in that way.

But when we get old, some girl just won't "risk it" for a guy who has not shown enough commitment.

So i don't know how it'll turn out.

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Originally posted by gundamman678 at 2005-8-26 10:48 PM:
襯家高要求

What do they usually expect?

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Originally posted by Eddie14 at 2005-8-26 11:11 PM:
just come to get marry in australia...

Well, it's the same over here too. My friend married a British girl, and that girl's family paid for everything, including everyone's flight over here.

Problem is.... what would a traditional Chinese family want?

westsider

Originally posted by gundamman678 at 2005-8-27 12:35 AM:


我以前個女友既父母好睇呢d門面野，酒就一定要擺架啦，無廿圍都要十圍! 仲有禮餅，禮金.......少一樣都唔得呀!

十圍... ok la, but 廿圍?! That's ~200 guest! so 100 on my side, how the heck do I know that many people?!

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Originally posted by kelvy at 2005-8-27 08:58 PM:
I JUST PROPOSED TO MY LADY!!!

congratz!

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Originally posted by johnwu at 2005-8-27 04:49 AM:
Marriage cost a lot of money for so...

Good point. A good strategy might be to propose at the right time to "drag on" a few years

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Originally posted by Troy at 2005-8-31 06:23 AM:
i got married recently, but sometimes I regret it. So make sure you are ready !!!

if you don't mind... Why are you regreting it?